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"no
going back" The title of a book i read about a young SGA boy in
oregon. The idea is there is no going back, once people know.
It's a good warning. I was talking my new roommate tonight, and the
subject turned to "gay" not sga. I tried to converse as best i could,
make good points, and not show i was very aware of all the issues. At
one point the thought came into my head, "ahh, just tell him. This is a
great opportunity"
I didn't act. I've thought about telling him, he's a friend, and we have a common friend who is gay. I may tell him.
BUT it will be planned, not just a impulse.
Now you may say, "but the timing was perfect, it'll be awkward to bring it up later"
I actually think the timing would be more awkward to "come out" in a
conversation that is non personal and detached. we're discussing it
abstract, and suddenly to make it about me woudl be different.
So if i tell him, which is a real possibility, i'll realize there is "no
going back" you can't close this door after it's opened. I'll pray
about it, and set up a time we can talk. Then I'll act, not be acted
up.
Anyway, just some thoughts late at night. Telling people
has been great for me, but i want to be wise, and thoughtful about who i
tell, because, one thing is for certain, it changes things in the
relationship, for good or bad.