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There is still "no going back"
"no
going back" The title of a book i read about a young SGA boy in
oregon. The idea is there is no going back, once people know.
It's a good warning. I was talking my new roommate tonight, and the
subject turned to "gay" not sga. I tried to converse as best i could,
make good points, and not show i was very aware of all the issues. At
one point the thought came into my head, "ahh, just tell him. This is a
great opportunity"
I didn't act. I've thought about telling him, he's a friend, and we have a common friend who is gay. I may tell him.
BUT it will be planned, not just a impulse.
Now you may say, "but the timing was perfect, it'll be awkward to bring it up later"
I actually think the timing would be more awkward to "come out" in a
conversation that is non personal and detached. we're discussing it
abstract, and suddenly to make it about me woudl be different.
So if i tell him, which is a real possibility, i'll realize there is "no
going back" you can't close this door after it's opened. I'll pray
about it, and set up a time we can talk. Then I'll act, not be acted
up.
Anyway, just some thoughts late at night. Telling people
has been great for me, but i want to be wise, and thoughtful about who i
tell, because, one thing is for certain, it changes things in the
relationship, for good or bad.
Don't be so afraid. If people sense that you're afraid or ashamed or if you think it's a big deal, they could possibly use the information against you or make you feel bad about being gay. Just tell your truth. Fear disappears when you do.
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